“How do you word an invitation where both sets of parents are paying for the wedding, the groom’s in the military about the receive a medical degree and the bride is a young widow whose father recently had a sex change operation and now goes by the name Sugar Pie DeSanto?”

This quote from The Wedding Planner is one of my favorites. It perfectly describes the sometimes difficult task of properly wording your wedding invitation. Whose name is listed at the top? What information do I include? What order does the wording go in? There are many blanks to fill in when ordering your invitations online and knowing the proper phrasing can be a bit tricky.

Today we’re breaking it down for you and sharing everything you need to know to make sure your invites are worded correctly. Let’s get going shall we!

Who’s Hosting?

The first lines on an invitation typically read “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe”, “Together With Their Families” or something similar. This line is the host line and should reference whoever is paying for the wedding. If the bride’s family is paying for the wedding in it’s entirety is should read something like:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Request the Honor of Your Presence

At the Marriage of Their Daughter

BRIDE’S NAME HERE

To

GROOM’S NAME HERE

If the groom’s family is paying in it’s entirety, it should read as follows:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Request the Honor of Your Presence

At the Marriage of

BRIDES NAME HERE

To Their Son

GROOM’S NAME HERE

With both of the above scenarios, if the wedding is formal, it is proper to follow it up as such:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Request the Honor of Your Presence

At the Marriage of Their Daughter

BRIDE’S NAME HERE

To

GROOM’S NAME HERE

Son of Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

OR

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Request the Honor of Your Presence

At the Marriage of

BRIDES NAME HERE

Daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

To Their Son

GROOM’S NAME HERE

If both families are splitting the cost of the wedding and the bride and groom are not contributing it should read:

Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents

And

Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parents

Request the Honor of Your Presence

At the Marriage of Their Children

BRIDE’S NAME HERE

And

GROOM’S NAME HERE

If the bride, groom, and both families will be sharing the expense of the wedding it would go something like this:

Together with their families

BRIDE’S NAME HERE

And

GROOM’S NAME HERE

Request the Honor of Your Presence

At Their Marriage

If the bride and groom are paying for the wedding solely on their own, you would simply lead with your names such as below:

BRIDE’S NAME HERE

And

GROOM’S NAME HERE

Request the Honor of Your Presence

At Their Wedding

The When and Where

Following the host information and couples’ names it’s time to list the when and where. You’ll begin this section with the date, followed by time and location. It should read similar to what’s below:

The 24th of October Two Thousand Seventeen

Six in the Evening

The Glass Factory

601 Myrtle Avenue

Jacksonville, Florida

Reception Details

If all guests that are invited to your ceremony are invited to your reception, then you’ll include a line regarding the reception at the very end. If you are inviting guests to the ceremony and not the reception (very common with large church weddings), then you will leave all information regarding a reception off the invitation. Assuming they’re all invited here’s the breakdown on the reception line

If the reception will be at a different location than the ceremony it should read:

Reception to Follow

Reception Location Name (Do Not Include Reception Location Address Here)

If the reception will be at the same location as the ceremony it should read:

Reception to Follow

(This could also be substituted for “Dinner and Dancing to Follow”)

If the reception will be adults only, you’ll want to reference that here by adding “Adults Only” before “Reception to Follow”. Additionally if you will have a non-traditional type of reception such as dessert only, appetizers only or something of the sort it should be referenced as such. For example:

Dessert Reception to Follow

OR

Cocktail Reception to Follow

Referencing this here will give guests an indicator that they should plan on eating dinner before hand. You can go into additional detail on your wedding website or a reception card insert in your invitation suite. But, no further explanation is needed on your formal invitation.

How to Customize the Wording to You

As I say frequently, every wedding is different. Therefore, every detail of every wedding will not be the same. This applies to your invitations as well. Depending on how formal your wedding is will determine if you can be more playful with your text. Additionally family dynamics such as parental divorce and second marriages can also play a role in how the invitation is worded.

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