Planning a wedding can be fun and stressful at the same time. If you aren’t prepared, it can be even worse. I know you’re ready to dive in head first and start planning but, proceeding without caution can mean you make some costly mistakes. Don’t worry though, together we can ensure you’re good. I’m sharing the 7 most common wedding planning mistakes and letting you know how to avoid them.

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Making Plans Before Setting Your Budget // You’re excited to plan your wedding and that’s awesome. But, beware. Reserving, purchasing, or even looking at any element of your wedding day before setting your budget can quickly send your total bill sky high. Not to mention, might totally crush your dreams when you find out that you can’t in fact afford that jaw dropping venue on the coast you’ve been dreaming of.

How to Avoid It: Right after you get engaged, sit down with your fiancé and both of your families. See if your families are able to contribute to your overall budget. After that, decide how much you and your fiancé are able to spend. Once you have your overall budget, allocate it to each category so you don’t overspend in any area.


Planning to Party Till Morning // You want your wedding to be a party. We get it. But, your guests may not want to hang till the wee hours of the morning. Plus, a longer reception can mean additional fees from your venue, service staff, and other vendors.

How to Avoid It: We recommend that clients don’t plan on hosting a reception longer than 5-6 hours from the start of the ceremony to your grand exit. This allows ample time for you to have fun but guests not to feel like you’re holding them hostage. If you want to keep the party going, gather your friends and head to your favorite local bar for an after party.


Not Knowing When to Stop // It’s so easy to get a bit carried away with wedding details and decor. We know there is so much cute stuff out there and you’re only going to get married once but sometimes more is awful.

How to Avoid It: Come up with a design plan for your wedding before you start booking vendors and buying decor. Think about each table, how you want it to look, and make a list of the items you will need to achieve it. This is your decor list. Once you find exactly what you’re looking for, check that item off your decor list and don’t think twice about it.


Micro-managing // You have a vision and you want that vision executed perfectly. But, micro-managing vendors and guests is not the way to accomplish it. All micro-managing does is lead to unnecessary stress and a less than enjoyable wedding day.

How to Avoid It: Hire a team of vendors that understand your vision and you trust completely. If this means you meet with 100 vendors, then meet with 100 vendors. And, never forget that you are hiring experienced professionals. These people do this for a living and know every possible situation to plan for. They are also experts at bring each client’s unique vision to life.


Not Hiring a Planner or Coordinator // You may think you don’t need one or that you don’t want anyone else telling you what to do for your wedding. But, a wedding planner or coordinator isn’t there to tell you what to do. A planner provides an invaluable amount of knowledge and assistance to ensure you get to enjoy every moment planning your wedding.

How to Avoid It: Even if you choose not to hire a full planner, make room in your budget for a coordinator and consider investing in a virtual planning service like The I Do List. Your coordinator will relieve stress and take so many tasks off your “I Do” list in the month leading up to your wedding. Additionally, knowing that someone who understands your vision is there to execute it while you are enjoying every moment of your big day is key!


Giving Everyone a +1 // It’s tempting to add “And Guest” to every single person’s invite on your guest list. However, that means your guest list and budget can soar in the blink of an eye.

How to Avoid It: Limit plus one’s to unmarried guests with a significant other only or guests who will not know anyone else at the wedding. Doing this will keep your guest count and budget under control.

Trying to Do It All Yourself // There is only so much one person can do. You will want to DIY every detail, but restrain yourself. Do-it-yourself projects take time. And, when you’re making details for a 150 person wedding, those projects will take lots of time, no matter how simple they seem. Between work and wedding planning, your time will be maxed out.

How to Avoid It: Start with limiting your project list. If you want to have some DIY details, look for projects that don’t take a lot of time and are fairly easy. Second, ask for help. Whether you look to a family member or member of your bridal party, don’t be afraid to pass off tasks that anyone can accomplish like booking hotel room blocks or assembling invitations. When it comes to a wedding, people are more than willing to volunteer their time to help you.

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